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    Not Listening or Answering

    Any suggestions on dealing with a 6 1/2 year old who doesn't listen, doesn't answer and we feel like we're going crazy constantly having to repeat ourselves. What is a better way of dealing with the whole cycle of not listening/paying attention and pretty much having a big blow up....

    Last night when we got home from work/school we asked him to take his medicine, feed the dog, start his vest -- all part of his normal routine and it became a major production...

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    Any suggestions on dealing with a 6 1/2 year old who doesn't listen, doesn't answer and we feel like we're going crazy constantly having to repeat ourselves. What is a better way of dealing with the whole cycle of not listening/paying attention and pretty much having a big blow up....

    Last night when we got home from work/school we asked him to take his medicine, feed the dog, start his vest -- all part of his normal routine and it became a major production...

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    Any suggestions on dealing with a 6 1/2 year old who doesn't listen, doesn't answer and we feel like we're going crazy constantly having to repeat ourselves. What is a better way of dealing with the whole cycle of not listening/paying attention and pretty much having a big blow up....

    Last night when we got home from work/school we asked him to take his medicine, feed the dog, start his vest -- all part of his normal routine and it became a major production...

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    Any suggestions on dealing with a 6 1/2 year old who doesn't listen, doesn't answer and we feel like we're going crazy constantly having to repeat ourselves. What is a better way of dealing with the whole cycle of not listening/paying attention and pretty much having a big blow up....

    Last night when we got home from work/school we asked him to take his medicine, feed the dog, start his vest -- all part of his normal routine and it became a major production...

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    Any suggestions on dealing with a 6 1/2 year old who doesn't listen, doesn't answer and we feel like we're going crazy constantly having to repeat ourselves. What is a better way of dealing with the whole cycle of not listening/paying attention and pretty much having a big blow up....
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    <br />Last night when we got home from work/school we asked him to take his medicine, feed the dog, start his vest -- all part of his normal routine and it became a major production...

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    Gotta love Selective Deafness, since they certainly hear what they want to hear. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0"> It kicks in in a big way at this age for all kids!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0">

    We've had to work at coming up with better ways of gaining compliance at all kinds of stuff too (getting homework and chores done, cooperating with routines (not just health stuff), etc... eventually it came down to making clear that they knew what our expectations were, were completely capable of carrying them out, we weren't going to endlessly repeat ourselves and consequences were going to follow if they didn't cooperate (vs. us driving ourselves insane and letting them see it stressed us out/turning it into an emotional situation in general.) But it's always a work in progress here too and we've had to alter our approaches here several times based on developmental stages (and what works to motivate them!) I am looking forward to seeing what our resident experts have to say on this too. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

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    Gotta love Selective Deafness, since they certainly hear what they want to hear. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0"> It kicks in in a big way at this age for all kids!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0">

    We've had to work at coming up with better ways of gaining compliance at all kinds of stuff too (getting homework and chores done, cooperating with routines (not just health stuff), etc... eventually it came down to making clear that they knew what our expectations were, were completely capable of carrying them out, we weren't going to endlessly repeat ourselves and consequences were going to follow if they didn't cooperate (vs. us driving ourselves insane and letting them see it stressed us out/turning it into an emotional situation in general.) But it's always a work in progress here too and we've had to alter our approaches here several times based on developmental stages (and what works to motivate them!) I am looking forward to seeing what our resident experts have to say on this too. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

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    Not Listening or Answering

    Gotta love Selective Deafness, since they certainly hear what they want to hear. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0"> It kicks in in a big way at this age for all kids!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0">

    We've had to work at coming up with better ways of gaining compliance at all kinds of stuff too (getting homework and chores done, cooperating with routines (not just health stuff), etc... eventually it came down to making clear that they knew what our expectations were, were completely capable of carrying them out, we weren't going to endlessly repeat ourselves and consequences were going to follow if they didn't cooperate (vs. us driving ourselves insane and letting them see it stressed us out/turning it into an emotional situation in general.) But it's always a work in progress here too and we've had to alter our approaches here several times based on developmental stages (and what works to motivate them!) I am looking forward to seeing what our resident experts have to say on this too. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

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    Not Listening or Answering

    Gotta love Selective Deafness, since they certainly hear what they want to hear. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0"> It kicks in in a big way at this age for all kids!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0">

    We've had to work at coming up with better ways of gaining compliance at all kinds of stuff too (getting homework and chores done, cooperating with routines (not just health stuff), etc... eventually it came down to making clear that they knew what our expectations were, were completely capable of carrying them out, we weren't going to endlessly repeat ourselves and consequences were going to follow if they didn't cooperate (vs. us driving ourselves insane and letting them see it stressed us out/turning it into an emotional situation in general.) But it's always a work in progress here too and we've had to alter our approaches here several times based on developmental stages (and what works to motivate them!) I am looking forward to seeing what our resident experts have to say on this too. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

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    Not Listening or Answering

    Gotta love Selective Deafness, since they certainly hear what they want to hear. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0"> It kicks in in a big way at this age for all kids!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0">
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    <br />We've had to work at coming up with better ways of gaining compliance at all kinds of stuff too (getting homework and chores done, cooperating with routines (not just health stuff), etc... eventually it came down to making clear that they knew what our expectations were, were completely capable of carrying them out, we weren't going to endlessly repeat ourselves and consequences were going to follow if they didn't cooperate (vs. us driving ourselves insane and letting them see it stressed us out/turning it into an emotional situation in general.) But it's always a work in progress here too and we've had to alter our approaches here several times based on developmental stages (and what works to motivate them!) I am looking forward to seeing what our resident experts have to say on this too. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

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