I really like what you have said and done. You've honored your loved one wonderfully. I found that after our son passed away, most people just stopped talking about him. That made it harder for me. He is STILL an everyday part of my life and always will be. When he was so sick both before and after his transplant he insisted that we have a Christmas tree in our little apartment where we lived while he was listed. So, we take a little tree to him at the cemetery every year because that meant something to him. I know the day passes and our hearts are broken. I guess we just do the best we can. Another thing we do at Christmas time is take toys to our local TV station. He would have liked that. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and all of the others who struggle through this time of year. Each in our own way.