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JORDYSMOM
02-13-2010, 02:25 PM
I've been raising kids for 22 years. That's half my life. And I think I've done a pretty good job so far. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> So naturally, I wondered if the Love and Logic book could teach me anything that I didn't already know. Well of course the answer is yes, and recently, I've been seeing some very positive results while utilizing this parenting style with my 14 year old son, Mason.

Those of you who have teenagers, or who have grown children will understand how difficult the middle school age is. It's as if our kids lose every single ounce of intelligence they ever had, and they become these alien creatures that you don't even recognize. LOL Add a brother with CF, a few other stressful family situations, and boy do you have a recipe for disaster!

Mason stopped doing his school work. He stopped doing his chores without MULTIPLE reminders. He "forgot" everything that he was asked to do. At one point, I thought I'd lose my mind if I heard him say "I forgot" again. Now, it would have been very easy to excuse this behavior, because believe me, this young man has been under some horrific stress over the last 6 months, as has our entire family. But that wouldn't do Mason any good. I stopped reminding Mason about his chores. I allowed him ample time to get them done, and then I did them myself. When he came to me and asked if he could go to a friends house, I said, "Oh, I'm too tired to take you. I've had extra chores to do today."

I stopped hounding him about his grades, and getting his homework finished. When he said he wanted to participate in a school related activity, I said, "Well that's really sad, because you haven't kept your grades up, so you aren't eligible to participate."

These interactions between us went on for a few weeks. Then it happened. He started bringing homework home, and his grades started to improve. He started doing his chores as soon as he got home. He CLEANED HIS ROOM PEOPLE!! LOL I cannot tell you how nice it is to see these positive results. I've been able to get Mason to do these things without a fight. Yes, I said without a fight! The best part is that he feels good about his accomplishments. J

Thank you, Dr. Cline & Lisa Greene, for helping this old dog to learn a few new tricks.

Stacey

JORDYSMOM
02-13-2010, 02:25 PM
I've been raising kids for 22 years. That's half my life. And I think I've done a pretty good job so far. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> So naturally, I wondered if the Love and Logic book could teach me anything that I didn't already know. Well of course the answer is yes, and recently, I've been seeing some very positive results while utilizing this parenting style with my 14 year old son, Mason.

Those of you who have teenagers, or who have grown children will understand how difficult the middle school age is. It's as if our kids lose every single ounce of intelligence they ever had, and they become these alien creatures that you don't even recognize. LOL Add a brother with CF, a few other stressful family situations, and boy do you have a recipe for disaster!

Mason stopped doing his school work. He stopped doing his chores without MULTIPLE reminders. He "forgot" everything that he was asked to do. At one point, I thought I'd lose my mind if I heard him say "I forgot" again. Now, it would have been very easy to excuse this behavior, because believe me, this young man has been under some horrific stress over the last 6 months, as has our entire family. But that wouldn't do Mason any good. I stopped reminding Mason about his chores. I allowed him ample time to get them done, and then I did them myself. When he came to me and asked if he could go to a friends house, I said, "Oh, I'm too tired to take you. I've had extra chores to do today."

I stopped hounding him about his grades, and getting his homework finished. When he said he wanted to participate in a school related activity, I said, "Well that's really sad, because you haven't kept your grades up, so you aren't eligible to participate."

These interactions between us went on for a few weeks. Then it happened. He started bringing homework home, and his grades started to improve. He started doing his chores as soon as he got home. He CLEANED HIS ROOM PEOPLE!! LOL I cannot tell you how nice it is to see these positive results. I've been able to get Mason to do these things without a fight. Yes, I said without a fight! The best part is that he feels good about his accomplishments. J

Thank you, Dr. Cline & Lisa Greene, for helping this old dog to learn a few new tricks.

Stacey

JORDYSMOM
02-13-2010, 02:25 PM
I've been raising kids for 22 years. That's half my life. And I think I've done a pretty good job so far. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> So naturally, I wondered if the Love and Logic book could teach me anything that I didn't already know. Well of course the answer is yes, and recently, I've been seeing some very positive results while utilizing this parenting style with my 14 year old son, Mason.

Those of you who have teenagers, or who have grown children will understand how difficult the middle school age is. It's as if our kids lose every single ounce of intelligence they ever had, and they become these alien creatures that you don't even recognize. LOL Add a brother with CF, a few other stressful family situations, and boy do you have a recipe for disaster!

Mason stopped doing his school work. He stopped doing his chores without MULTIPLE reminders. He "forgot" everything that he was asked to do. At one point, I thought I'd lose my mind if I heard him say "I forgot" again. Now, it would have been very easy to excuse this behavior, because believe me, this young man has been under some horrific stress over the last 6 months, as has our entire family. But that wouldn't do Mason any good. I stopped reminding Mason about his chores. I allowed him ample time to get them done, and then I did them myself. When he came to me and asked if he could go to a friends house, I said, "Oh, I'm too tired to take you. I've had extra chores to do today."

I stopped hounding him about his grades, and getting his homework finished. When he said he wanted to participate in a school related activity, I said, "Well that's really sad, because you haven't kept your grades up, so you aren't eligible to participate."

These interactions between us went on for a few weeks. Then it happened. He started bringing homework home, and his grades started to improve. He started doing his chores as soon as he got home. He CLEANED HIS ROOM PEOPLE!! LOL I cannot tell you how nice it is to see these positive results. I've been able to get Mason to do these things without a fight. Yes, I said without a fight! The best part is that he feels good about his accomplishments. J

Thank you, Dr. Cline & Lisa Greene, for helping this old dog to learn a few new tricks.

Stacey

JORDYSMOM
02-13-2010, 02:25 PM
I've been raising kids for 22 years. That's half my life. And I think I've done a pretty good job so far. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> So naturally, I wondered if the Love and Logic book could teach me anything that I didn't already know. Well of course the answer is yes, and recently, I've been seeing some very positive results while utilizing this parenting style with my 14 year old son, Mason.

Those of you who have teenagers, or who have grown children will understand how difficult the middle school age is. It's as if our kids lose every single ounce of intelligence they ever had, and they become these alien creatures that you don't even recognize. LOL Add a brother with CF, a few other stressful family situations, and boy do you have a recipe for disaster!

Mason stopped doing his school work. He stopped doing his chores without MULTIPLE reminders. He "forgot" everything that he was asked to do. At one point, I thought I'd lose my mind if I heard him say "I forgot" again. Now, it would have been very easy to excuse this behavior, because believe me, this young man has been under some horrific stress over the last 6 months, as has our entire family. But that wouldn't do Mason any good. I stopped reminding Mason about his chores. I allowed him ample time to get them done, and then I did them myself. When he came to me and asked if he could go to a friends house, I said, "Oh, I'm too tired to take you. I've had extra chores to do today."

I stopped hounding him about his grades, and getting his homework finished. When he said he wanted to participate in a school related activity, I said, "Well that's really sad, because you haven't kept your grades up, so you aren't eligible to participate."

These interactions between us went on for a few weeks. Then it happened. He started bringing homework home, and his grades started to improve. He started doing his chores as soon as he got home. He CLEANED HIS ROOM PEOPLE!! LOL I cannot tell you how nice it is to see these positive results. I've been able to get Mason to do these things without a fight. Yes, I said without a fight! The best part is that he feels good about his accomplishments. J

Thank you, Dr. Cline & Lisa Greene, for helping this old dog to learn a few new tricks.

Stacey

JORDYSMOM
02-13-2010, 02:25 PM
I've been raising kids for 22 years. That's half my life. And I think I've done a pretty good job so far. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> So naturally, I wondered if the Love and Logic book could teach me anything that I didn't already know. Well of course the answer is yes, and recently, I've been seeing some very positive results while utilizing this parenting style with my 14 year old son, Mason.
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<br />Those of you who have teenagers, or who have grown children will understand how difficult the middle school age is. It's as if our kids lose every single ounce of intelligence they ever had, and they become these alien creatures that you don't even recognize. LOL Add a brother with CF, a few other stressful family situations, and boy do you have a recipe for disaster!
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<br />Mason stopped doing his school work. He stopped doing his chores without MULTIPLE reminders. He "forgot" everything that he was asked to do. At one point, I thought I'd lose my mind if I heard him say "I forgot" again. Now, it would have been very easy to excuse this behavior, because believe me, this young man has been under some horrific stress over the last 6 months, as has our entire family. But that wouldn't do Mason any good. I stopped reminding Mason about his chores. I allowed him ample time to get them done, and then I did them myself. When he came to me and asked if he could go to a friends house, I said, "Oh, I'm too tired to take you. I've had extra chores to do today."
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<br />I stopped hounding him about his grades, and getting his homework finished. When he said he wanted to participate in a school related activity, I said, "Well that's really sad, because you haven't kept your grades up, so you aren't eligible to participate."
<br />
<br />These interactions between us went on for a few weeks. Then it happened. He started bringing homework home, and his grades started to improve. He started doing his chores as soon as he got home. He CLEANED HIS ROOM PEOPLE!! LOL I cannot tell you how nice it is to see these positive results. I've been able to get Mason to do these things without a fight. Yes, I said without a fight! The best part is that he feels good about his accomplishments. J
<br />
<br />Thank you, Dr. Cline & Lisa Greene, for helping this old dog to learn a few new tricks.
<br />
<br />Stacey

Imogene
02-14-2010, 04:42 AM
Oh Stacey! How I laughed at your story! You are amazing to try something new.
Peter and I attended the Love and Logic presentation at the Minneapolis Conference.
We were "stuck" in it for four hours! Having 7 grandchildren and 4 children, we thought we were "pretty good"! But do we have a lot to learn too!
I have taken the 5 E's to heart...I turn them over in my head and try to see where I can use them. They are really just good for all relationships!
The 5 R's and especially RESCUE (no good) is my downfall.
I, of course, bought 25 books after attending Lisa and Foster's program.
I sent 20 of them out for Christmas...I still have 5 left...so PM me anyone who wants one and I'll mail it to you while the supply lasts!
Though I think even this is Rescue...buy your own books and get Lisa and Foster to speak at your clinics!

I'm trying not to rescue my children...just enjoy and smile more at their stories...but hmmmm after 40 years...they are confused...what's wrong with mom, not commenting on everything we say?

Thanks again for the great lesson!
Jeanne

Imogene
02-14-2010, 04:42 AM
Oh Stacey! How I laughed at your story! You are amazing to try something new.
Peter and I attended the Love and Logic presentation at the Minneapolis Conference.
We were "stuck" in it for four hours! Having 7 grandchildren and 4 children, we thought we were "pretty good"! But do we have a lot to learn too!
I have taken the 5 E's to heart...I turn them over in my head and try to see where I can use them. They are really just good for all relationships!
The 5 R's and especially RESCUE (no good) is my downfall.
I, of course, bought 25 books after attending Lisa and Foster's program.
I sent 20 of them out for Christmas...I still have 5 left...so PM me anyone who wants one and I'll mail it to you while the supply lasts!
Though I think even this is Rescue...buy your own books and get Lisa and Foster to speak at your clinics!

I'm trying not to rescue my children...just enjoy and smile more at their stories...but hmmmm after 40 years...they are confused...what's wrong with mom, not commenting on everything we say?

Thanks again for the great lesson!
Jeanne

Imogene
02-14-2010, 04:42 AM
Oh Stacey! How I laughed at your story! You are amazing to try something new.
Peter and I attended the Love and Logic presentation at the Minneapolis Conference.
We were "stuck" in it for four hours! Having 7 grandchildren and 4 children, we thought we were "pretty good"! But do we have a lot to learn too!
I have taken the 5 E's to heart...I turn them over in my head and try to see where I can use them. They are really just good for all relationships!
The 5 R's and especially RESCUE (no good) is my downfall.
I, of course, bought 25 books after attending Lisa and Foster's program.
I sent 20 of them out for Christmas...I still have 5 left...so PM me anyone who wants one and I'll mail it to you while the supply lasts!
Though I think even this is Rescue...buy your own books and get Lisa and Foster to speak at your clinics!

I'm trying not to rescue my children...just enjoy and smile more at their stories...but hmmmm after 40 years...they are confused...what's wrong with mom, not commenting on everything we say?

Thanks again for the great lesson!
Jeanne

Imogene
02-14-2010, 04:42 AM
Oh Stacey! How I laughed at your story! You are amazing to try something new.
Peter and I attended the Love and Logic presentation at the Minneapolis Conference.
We were "stuck" in it for four hours! Having 7 grandchildren and 4 children, we thought we were "pretty good"! But do we have a lot to learn too!
I have taken the 5 E's to heart...I turn them over in my head and try to see where I can use them. They are really just good for all relationships!
The 5 R's and especially RESCUE (no good) is my downfall.
I, of course, bought 25 books after attending Lisa and Foster's program.
I sent 20 of them out for Christmas...I still have 5 left...so PM me anyone who wants one and I'll mail it to you while the supply lasts!
Though I think even this is Rescue...buy your own books and get Lisa and Foster to speak at your clinics!

I'm trying not to rescue my children...just enjoy and smile more at their stories...but hmmmm after 40 years...they are confused...what's wrong with mom, not commenting on everything we say?

Thanks again for the great lesson!
Jeanne

Imogene
02-14-2010, 04:42 AM
Oh Stacey! How I laughed at your story! You are amazing to try something new.
<br />Peter and I attended the Love and Logic presentation at the Minneapolis Conference.
<br />We were "stuck" in it for four hours! Having 7 grandchildren and 4 children, we thought we were "pretty good"! But do we have a lot to learn too!
<br />I have taken the 5 E's to heart...I turn them over in my head and try to see where I can use them. They are really just good for all relationships!
<br />The 5 R's and especially RESCUE (no good) is my downfall.
<br />I, of course, bought 25 books after attending Lisa and Foster's program.
<br />I sent 20 of them out for Christmas...I still have 5 left...so PM me anyone who wants one and I'll mail it to you while the supply lasts!
<br />Though I think even this is Rescue...buy your own books and get Lisa and Foster to speak at your clinics!
<br />
<br />I'm trying not to rescue my children...just enjoy and smile more at their stories...but hmmmm after 40 years...they are confused...what's wrong with mom, not commenting on everything we say?
<br />
<br />Thanks again for the great lesson!
<br />Jeanne

JORDYSMOM
02-14-2010, 08:06 PM
LOL Jeanne, I'm a classic rescuer too. I think I'm a cross between a drill seargent & a hellicopter parent. A control freak who wants to save everyone. LOL <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> Change can be good though, and yes, it does work in all relationships. Very cool!

Stacey

JORDYSMOM
02-14-2010, 08:06 PM
LOL Jeanne, I'm a classic rescuer too. I think I'm a cross between a drill seargent & a hellicopter parent. A control freak who wants to save everyone. LOL <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> Change can be good though, and yes, it does work in all relationships. Very cool!

Stacey

JORDYSMOM
02-14-2010, 08:06 PM
LOL Jeanne, I'm a classic rescuer too. I think I'm a cross between a drill seargent & a hellicopter parent. A control freak who wants to save everyone. LOL <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> Change can be good though, and yes, it does work in all relationships. Very cool!

Stacey

JORDYSMOM
02-14-2010, 08:06 PM
LOL Jeanne, I'm a classic rescuer too. I think I'm a cross between a drill seargent & a hellicopter parent. A control freak who wants to save everyone. LOL <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> Change can be good though, and yes, it does work in all relationships. Very cool!

Stacey

JORDYSMOM
02-14-2010, 08:06 PM
LOL Jeanne, I'm a classic rescuer too. I think I'm a cross between a drill seargent & a hellicopter parent. A control freak who wants to save everyone. LOL <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> Change can be good though, and yes, it does work in all relationships. Very cool!
<br />
<br />Stacey

LisaGreene
02-16-2010, 06:12 AM
Hi Stacey and Jeanne,
How funny you two are! I was LOL at both of your comments.

Yes, L&L is truly amazing and has changed literally hundreds of thousands of lives over the last 30 years (including our own). This is not to my credit in any way, but to Dr. Cline's and his cofounder of L&L- Jim Fay.

I feel so blessed to have been able to bring this material to the CF community because it will help (and is helping) so many families to live better. So, thank you both for your kind words and, Jeanne, for helping us to get the word out about this important, (and fun!), parenting program.

Hugs!!
Lisa

LisaGreene
02-16-2010, 06:12 AM
Hi Stacey and Jeanne,
How funny you two are! I was LOL at both of your comments.

Yes, L&L is truly amazing and has changed literally hundreds of thousands of lives over the last 30 years (including our own). This is not to my credit in any way, but to Dr. Cline's and his cofounder of L&L- Jim Fay.

I feel so blessed to have been able to bring this material to the CF community because it will help (and is helping) so many families to live better. So, thank you both for your kind words and, Jeanne, for helping us to get the word out about this important, (and fun!), parenting program.

Hugs!!
Lisa

LisaGreene
02-16-2010, 06:12 AM
Hi Stacey and Jeanne,
How funny you two are! I was LOL at both of your comments.

Yes, L&L is truly amazing and has changed literally hundreds of thousands of lives over the last 30 years (including our own). This is not to my credit in any way, but to Dr. Cline's and his cofounder of L&L- Jim Fay.

I feel so blessed to have been able to bring this material to the CF community because it will help (and is helping) so many families to live better. So, thank you both for your kind words and, Jeanne, for helping us to get the word out about this important, (and fun!), parenting program.

Hugs!!
Lisa

LisaGreene
02-16-2010, 06:12 AM
Hi Stacey and Jeanne,
How funny you two are! I was LOL at both of your comments.

Yes, L&L is truly amazing and has changed literally hundreds of thousands of lives over the last 30 years (including our own). This is not to my credit in any way, but to Dr. Cline's and his cofounder of L&L- Jim Fay.

I feel so blessed to have been able to bring this material to the CF community because it will help (and is helping) so many families to live better. So, thank you both for your kind words and, Jeanne, for helping us to get the word out about this important, (and fun!), parenting program.

Hugs!!
Lisa

LisaGreene
02-16-2010, 06:12 AM
Hi Stacey and Jeanne,
<br />How funny you two are! I was LOL at both of your comments.
<br />
<br />Yes, L&L is truly amazing and has changed literally hundreds of thousands of lives over the last 30 years (including our own). This is not to my credit in any way, but to Dr. Cline's and his cofounder of L&L- Jim Fay.
<br />
<br />I feel so blessed to have been able to bring this material to the CF community because it will help (and is helping) so many families to live better. So, thank you both for your kind words and, Jeanne, for helping us to get the word out about this important, (and fun!), parenting program.
<br />
<br />Hugs!!
<br />Lisa