View Full Version : Worry alot about the future?

10-28-2005, 05:08 AM
Hi all being dating a guy with CF for 3 years love him dearly but mentally i just worry so much about the future.I lost my father young and our family never recovered so this is always in the back of my mind.Any advice on how to cope with this?

10-28-2005, 07:22 AM
Hi There

I have CF and this is something that is always on mind especially since I have gotten older. My boyfriend is brilliant with me and really positive but I sometimes wonder if he is wasting his time etc (not feeling sorry for myself or anything) but it is a worry, I am also not sure if I want children etc because of my health and I know he would love to, I would say to take each day as it comes. Make plans don't get me wrong but still try not to think too far forward, look forward to the next year not the next 25...... sorry if that doesn't really answer your question but I think it is something that everyone who is in anyway related to anyone or who has CF will think about alot!!


10-28-2005, 01:07 PM
I know this is easy for me to say, but you only have sooo much control over the future. If you worry about the "what ifs" you wont be living, you will only be existing. All you can do is take care of yourself & help him take care of himself the best that you can. Enjoy each other each day the best that you can. I lost my Dad at 17 (which isnt young, but not an adult either) & what I miss most is not having the chance to have a relationship with him as an adult & experiencing marriage/kids while he was by my side. Did it make me worry more about my fate when he died? Maybe for a short time, but not enough to hold me down. You will have days that you want to go running screaming & days that you cant get enough in into 24 hours. I dont know what else to say to help you.......

10-30-2005, 03:30 AM
My Husband Ry had CF, and I know what you're going through right now. All the doubts that are slipping into your head, all the worries that someone your age in love should never ever have to think about. If I had it to do over again, I would take that leap in a heartbeat or less. It's the constant arguement of passion vs. safety. Wouls you take 5 years with someone you love with everything in you, or 50 years with someone you can tolerate?

All you can do is hang on, and love as much and as strongly as you can. In my experience, you'd be surprised at the thousand fold love you get in return. The future holds nothing you want to see. Hold on to the magic of today, and let the future take care of itself.

10-30-2005, 03:52 AM
I'm having a tough time myself. I've been dating a guy with CF off and on for 2 years now and he's anxious to get married and have children before it's too late. He's in great shape too but I constantly worry. The other problem is that my parent's are really unsupportive. How are your parent's reacting to this. Do they support the relationship?

11-03-2005, 01:48 PM


11-03-2005, 03:15 PM
You've got to be kidding me!!! Someone comes on here to get some support and advice and you respond with an ad for some health tonic!!! Please! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">

11-03-2005, 03:18 PM
I thought it was just me at first thinking it was inappropriate. This type of stuff is getting kind of old especially when dealing with an already delicate topic.

11-03-2005, 07:57 PM
Hi There

I am the mother of a child with CF, I also lost a parent when i was really young ( lost my mother when i was 6 ) i then lost my best friend ( grandmother ) when i was 13, so i know how you feel about losing people that are close to you. My daughter is 9 years old and she is pretty healthy, yes i do worry about losing her!!!! I try not to worry because no one is promised tomorrow. I do know that i love her more than anything and i want to be here for her in any situation that she may come across. All i can say is that at some point we are all going to leave this world and i try to focus on the present and how much we enjoy each other. Try to have fun, enjoy eachother, and love one another with all of your heart.

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