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fondreflections
02-01-2008, 12:45 PM
The past month has been nothing shy of a nightmare to say the least...

*I was diagnosed as infertile.
*I got so upset over it that I ended up really sick (currently on Cipro).
*My 5-6 year old Lab died after only being diagnosed with cancer 4 weeks prior.

I know that my problems aren't near as bad as some of the ones that others are facing, and I'm not complaining in any way. Actually, I think I'm starting to calm down. I'm finally feeling "at peace".

I also started babysitting 2 days a week for a total of 12 hours. The babysitting has really helped ease the whole "childless" feelings. Also, I was pretty sick when I first started, and it made me really think hard. "Just maybe me not having children is for a reason. It's kind of hard to take care of an infant while sick." The first two days were a crash course. Aidan and I survived, but it was hard for me with being so sick.

This week, I'm feeling better. The head cold is gone but left a sinus and chest infection. I think I'll be fine. HOWEVER, the whole scheme of being "childless" may not be such a bad thing.

My husband works 12-hour days. If we had a baby and I got sick, it would be SO HARD to do everything. I love having Aidan, but when Kelly comes to pick him up, I'm ready for a break. He does tire me out, and he's only 8 months old. I think babysitting was the BEST thing I could have done!!! I have received a "taste" of reality, and for that I am thankful. I'm not sure I could raise a child "full-tme".

Jake is completely relieved that I'm coming to this on my own. He saw how my outlook changed so quickly.

<b>I hope no one misunderstands me. I would love to have children, but I'm not too sure how I could be a parent AND keep up with my health.</b>

Also, I see some of the challenges that new Moms with CF are facing currently. It doesn't exactly convince me to "push" pregnancy with IVF.

Overall, I'm really starting to feel at "peace". FINALLY!

<b>OT</b>: As far as my Lab, Moss...He had to be "put down" on Jan. 22.

*The Saturday before the 22nd, I felt (4) tumors on his neck. He was acting "normal" and eating. Moss was also playing with Gizmo, our Shih Tzu.

*Monday, the 21st, Moss threw up twice. He didn't eat until 3 in the afternoon and wasn't acting like himself for the FIRST time.

*Tuesday, the 22nd, Moss threw up five times by 1:00. We called the vet to have him put down. He was down to dry heaves and was terrible. He couldn't eat and was throwing up any water he was trying to drink. Two of the 4 tumors were now noticable upon looking. All 4 tumors were larger to the touch. Our vet said that his throat was closing. <b> Nothing could be done since they were cancerous tumors.</b>

*Moss was put to rest at 1:30 in the afternoon on the 22nd...I held his head as he drifted off to sleep...We buried him in the backyard.

In one month, he was gone...The Prednisone did nothing to help slow down the cancer...

Who ever thought that an increasing in peeing would result from cancer??? <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

<img src="http://i129.photobucket.com/albums/p212/yenilson/Christmas2007004.jpg">

Above: My Moss 1 month prior to cancer diagnosis...

fondreflections
02-01-2008, 12:45 PM
The past month has been nothing shy of a nightmare to say the least...

*I was diagnosed as infertile.
*I got so upset over it that I ended up really sick (currently on Cipro).
*My 5-6 year old Lab died after only being diagnosed with cancer 4 weeks prior.

I know that my problems aren't near as bad as some of the ones that others are facing, and I'm not complaining in any way. Actually, I think I'm starting to calm down. I'm finally feeling "at peace".

I also started babysitting 2 days a week for a total of 12 hours. The babysitting has really helped ease the whole "childless" feelings. Also, I was pretty sick when I first started, and it made me really think hard. "Just maybe me not having children is for a reason. It's kind of hard to take care of an infant while sick." The first two days were a crash course. Aidan and I survived, but it was hard for me with being so sick.

This week, I'm feeling better. The head cold is gone but left a sinus and chest infection. I think I'll be fine. HOWEVER, the whole scheme of being "childless" may not be such a bad thing.

My husband works 12-hour days. If we had a baby and I got sick, it would be SO HARD to do everything. I love having Aidan, but when Kelly comes to pick him up, I'm ready for a break. He does tire me out, and he's only 8 months old. I think babysitting was the BEST thing I could have done!!! I have received a "taste" of reality, and for that I am thankful. I'm not sure I could raise a child "full-tme".

Jake is completely relieved that I'm coming to this on my own. He saw how my outlook changed so quickly.

<b>I hope no one misunderstands me. I would love to have children, but I'm not too sure how I could be a parent AND keep up with my health.</b>

Also, I see some of the challenges that new Moms with CF are facing currently. It doesn't exactly convince me to "push" pregnancy with IVF.

Overall, I'm really starting to feel at "peace". FINALLY!

<b>OT</b>: As far as my Lab, Moss...He had to be "put down" on Jan. 22.

*The Saturday before the 22nd, I felt (4) tumors on his neck. He was acting "normal" and eating. Moss was also playing with Gizmo, our Shih Tzu.

*Monday, the 21st, Moss threw up twice. He didn't eat until 3 in the afternoon and wasn't acting like himself for the FIRST time.

*Tuesday, the 22nd, Moss threw up five times by 1:00. We called the vet to have him put down. He was down to dry heaves and was terrible. He couldn't eat and was throwing up any water he was trying to drink. Two of the 4 tumors were now noticable upon looking. All 4 tumors were larger to the touch. Our vet said that his throat was closing. <b> Nothing could be done since they were cancerous tumors.</b>

*Moss was put to rest at 1:30 in the afternoon on the 22nd...I held his head as he drifted off to sleep...We buried him in the backyard.

In one month, he was gone...The Prednisone did nothing to help slow down the cancer...

Who ever thought that an increasing in peeing would result from cancer??? <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

<img src="http://i129.photobucket.com/albums/p212/yenilson/Christmas2007004.jpg">

Above: My Moss 1 month prior to cancer diagnosis...

fondreflections
02-01-2008, 12:45 PM
The past month has been nothing shy of a nightmare to say the least...

*I was diagnosed as infertile.
*I got so upset over it that I ended up really sick (currently on Cipro).
*My 5-6 year old Lab died after only being diagnosed with cancer 4 weeks prior.

I know that my problems aren't near as bad as some of the ones that others are facing, and I'm not complaining in any way. Actually, I think I'm starting to calm down. I'm finally feeling "at peace".

I also started babysitting 2 days a week for a total of 12 hours. The babysitting has really helped ease the whole "childless" feelings. Also, I was pretty sick when I first started, and it made me really think hard. "Just maybe me not having children is for a reason. It's kind of hard to take care of an infant while sick." The first two days were a crash course. Aidan and I survived, but it was hard for me with being so sick.

This week, I'm feeling better. The head cold is gone but left a sinus and chest infection. I think I'll be fine. HOWEVER, the whole scheme of being "childless" may not be such a bad thing.

My husband works 12-hour days. If we had a baby and I got sick, it would be SO HARD to do everything. I love having Aidan, but when Kelly comes to pick him up, I'm ready for a break. He does tire me out, and he's only 8 months old. I think babysitting was the BEST thing I could have done!!! I have received a "taste" of reality, and for that I am thankful. I'm not sure I could raise a child "full-tme".

Jake is completely relieved that I'm coming to this on my own. He saw how my outlook changed so quickly.

<b>I hope no one misunderstands me. I would love to have children, but I'm not too sure how I could be a parent AND keep up with my health.</b>

Also, I see some of the challenges that new Moms with CF are facing currently. It doesn't exactly convince me to "push" pregnancy with IVF.

Overall, I'm really starting to feel at "peace". FINALLY!

<b>OT</b>: As far as my Lab, Moss...He had to be "put down" on Jan. 22.

*The Saturday before the 22nd, I felt (4) tumors on his neck. He was acting "normal" and eating. Moss was also playing with Gizmo, our Shih Tzu.

*Monday, the 21st, Moss threw up twice. He didn't eat until 3 in the afternoon and wasn't acting like himself for the FIRST time.

*Tuesday, the 22nd, Moss threw up five times by 1:00. We called the vet to have him put down. He was down to dry heaves and was terrible. He couldn't eat and was throwing up any water he was trying to drink. Two of the 4 tumors were now noticable upon looking. All 4 tumors were larger to the touch. Our vet said that his throat was closing. <b> Nothing could be done since they were cancerous tumors.</b>

*Moss was put to rest at 1:30 in the afternoon on the 22nd...I held his head as he drifted off to sleep...We buried him in the backyard.

In one month, he was gone...The Prednisone did nothing to help slow down the cancer...

Who ever thought that an increasing in peeing would result from cancer??? <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

<img src="http://i129.photobucket.com/albums/p212/yenilson/Christmas2007004.jpg">

Above: My Moss 1 month prior to cancer diagnosis...

fondreflections
02-01-2008, 12:45 PM
The past month has been nothing shy of a nightmare to say the least...

*I was diagnosed as infertile.
*I got so upset over it that I ended up really sick (currently on Cipro).
*My 5-6 year old Lab died after only being diagnosed with cancer 4 weeks prior.

I know that my problems aren't near as bad as some of the ones that others are facing, and I'm not complaining in any way. Actually, I think I'm starting to calm down. I'm finally feeling "at peace".

I also started babysitting 2 days a week for a total of 12 hours. The babysitting has really helped ease the whole "childless" feelings. Also, I was pretty sick when I first started, and it made me really think hard. "Just maybe me not having children is for a reason. It's kind of hard to take care of an infant while sick." The first two days were a crash course. Aidan and I survived, but it was hard for me with being so sick.

This week, I'm feeling better. The head cold is gone but left a sinus and chest infection. I think I'll be fine. HOWEVER, the whole scheme of being "childless" may not be such a bad thing.

My husband works 12-hour days. If we had a baby and I got sick, it would be SO HARD to do everything. I love having Aidan, but when Kelly comes to pick him up, I'm ready for a break. He does tire me out, and he's only 8 months old. I think babysitting was the BEST thing I could have done!!! I have received a "taste" of reality, and for that I am thankful. I'm not sure I could raise a child "full-tme".

Jake is completely relieved that I'm coming to this on my own. He saw how my outlook changed so quickly.

<b>I hope no one misunderstands me. I would love to have children, but I'm not too sure how I could be a parent AND keep up with my health.</b>

Also, I see some of the challenges that new Moms with CF are facing currently. It doesn't exactly convince me to "push" pregnancy with IVF.

Overall, I'm really starting to feel at "peace". FINALLY!

<b>OT</b>: As far as my Lab, Moss...He had to be "put down" on Jan. 22.

*The Saturday before the 22nd, I felt (4) tumors on his neck. He was acting "normal" and eating. Moss was also playing with Gizmo, our Shih Tzu.

*Monday, the 21st, Moss threw up twice. He didn't eat until 3 in the afternoon and wasn't acting like himself for the FIRST time.

*Tuesday, the 22nd, Moss threw up five times by 1:00. We called the vet to have him put down. He was down to dry heaves and was terrible. He couldn't eat and was throwing up any water he was trying to drink. Two of the 4 tumors were now noticable upon looking. All 4 tumors were larger to the touch. Our vet said that his throat was closing. <b> Nothing could be done since they were cancerous tumors.</b>

*Moss was put to rest at 1:30 in the afternoon on the 22nd...I held his head as he drifted off to sleep...We buried him in the backyard.

In one month, he was gone...The Prednisone did nothing to help slow down the cancer...

Who ever thought that an increasing in peeing would result from cancer??? <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

<img src="http://i129.photobucket.com/albums/p212/yenilson/Christmas2007004.jpg">

Above: My Moss 1 month prior to cancer diagnosis...

fondreflections
02-01-2008, 12:45 PM
The past month has been nothing shy of a nightmare to say the least...

*I was diagnosed as infertile.
*I got so upset over it that I ended up really sick (currently on Cipro).
*My 5-6 year old Lab died after only being diagnosed with cancer 4 weeks prior.

I know that my problems aren't near as bad as some of the ones that others are facing, and I'm not complaining in any way. Actually, I think I'm starting to calm down. I'm finally feeling "at peace".

I also started babysitting 2 days a week for a total of 12 hours. The babysitting has really helped ease the whole "childless" feelings. Also, I was pretty sick when I first started, and it made me really think hard. "Just maybe me not having children is for a reason. It's kind of hard to take care of an infant while sick." The first two days were a crash course. Aidan and I survived, but it was hard for me with being so sick.

This week, I'm feeling better. The head cold is gone but left a sinus and chest infection. I think I'll be fine. HOWEVER, the whole scheme of being "childless" may not be such a bad thing.

My husband works 12-hour days. If we had a baby and I got sick, it would be SO HARD to do everything. I love having Aidan, but when Kelly comes to pick him up, I'm ready for a break. He does tire me out, and he's only 8 months old. I think babysitting was the BEST thing I could have done!!! I have received a "taste" of reality, and for that I am thankful. I'm not sure I could raise a child "full-tme".

Jake is completely relieved that I'm coming to this on my own. He saw how my outlook changed so quickly.

<b>I hope no one misunderstands me. I would love to have children, but I'm not too sure how I could be a parent AND keep up with my health.</b>

Also, I see some of the challenges that new Moms with CF are facing currently. It doesn't exactly convince me to "push" pregnancy with IVF.

Overall, I'm really starting to feel at "peace". FINALLY!

<b>OT</b>: As far as my Lab, Moss...He had to be "put down" on Jan. 22.

*The Saturday before the 22nd, I felt (4) tumors on his neck. He was acting "normal" and eating. Moss was also playing with Gizmo, our Shih Tzu.

*Monday, the 21st, Moss threw up twice. He didn't eat until 3 in the afternoon and wasn't acting like himself for the FIRST time.

*Tuesday, the 22nd, Moss threw up five times by 1:00. We called the vet to have him put down. He was down to dry heaves and was terrible. He couldn't eat and was throwing up any water he was trying to drink. Two of the 4 tumors were now noticable upon looking. All 4 tumors were larger to the touch. Our vet said that his throat was closing. <b> Nothing could be done since they were cancerous tumors.</b>

*Moss was put to rest at 1:30 in the afternoon on the 22nd...I held his head as he drifted off to sleep...We buried him in the backyard.

In one month, he was gone...The Prednisone did nothing to help slow down the cancer...

Who ever thought that an increasing in peeing would result from cancer??? <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

<img src="http://i129.photobucket.com/albums/p212/yenilson/Christmas2007004.jpg">

Above: My Moss 1 month prior to cancer diagnosis...

katyf13
02-01-2008, 12:56 PM
I'm sorry you have had so much to deal with lately. People with cf get more than their fair share of crap. I also understand how important dogs are. Honestly, if anything happened to my dog now I don't know if I could handle it! he's all I have left! Well, that's not true, but he is my best company.
I am glad you have found some peace. Now that Mike is gone, I don't know if I will have kids either. It won't be the same without him. We wanted to adopt a foster kid who needed us and he would have been such a good dad. Maybe someday I still will, but I am at peace (sometimes) with just letting life happen and see where it takes me....

katyf13
02-01-2008, 12:56 PM
I'm sorry you have had so much to deal with lately. People with cf get more than their fair share of crap. I also understand how important dogs are. Honestly, if anything happened to my dog now I don't know if I could handle it! he's all I have left! Well, that's not true, but he is my best company.
I am glad you have found some peace. Now that Mike is gone, I don't know if I will have kids either. It won't be the same without him. We wanted to adopt a foster kid who needed us and he would have been such a good dad. Maybe someday I still will, but I am at peace (sometimes) with just letting life happen and see where it takes me....

katyf13
02-01-2008, 12:56 PM
I'm sorry you have had so much to deal with lately. People with cf get more than their fair share of crap. I also understand how important dogs are. Honestly, if anything happened to my dog now I don't know if I could handle it! he's all I have left! Well, that's not true, but he is my best company.
I am glad you have found some peace. Now that Mike is gone, I don't know if I will have kids either. It won't be the same without him. We wanted to adopt a foster kid who needed us and he would have been such a good dad. Maybe someday I still will, but I am at peace (sometimes) with just letting life happen and see where it takes me....

katyf13
02-01-2008, 12:56 PM
I'm sorry you have had so much to deal with lately. People with cf get more than their fair share of crap. I also understand how important dogs are. Honestly, if anything happened to my dog now I don't know if I could handle it! he's all I have left! Well, that's not true, but he is my best company.
I am glad you have found some peace. Now that Mike is gone, I don't know if I will have kids either. It won't be the same without him. We wanted to adopt a foster kid who needed us and he would have been such a good dad. Maybe someday I still will, but I am at peace (sometimes) with just letting life happen and see where it takes me....

katyf13
02-01-2008, 12:56 PM
I'm sorry you have had so much to deal with lately. People with cf get more than their fair share of crap. I also understand how important dogs are. Honestly, if anything happened to my dog now I don't know if I could handle it! he's all I have left! Well, that's not true, but he is my best company.
I am glad you have found some peace. Now that Mike is gone, I don't know if I will have kids either. It won't be the same without him. We wanted to adopt a foster kid who needed us and he would have been such a good dad. Maybe someday I still will, but I am at peace (sometimes) with just letting life happen and see where it takes me....

sweetdeal
02-01-2008, 12:57 PM
Jenny, I'm sorry to hear your news, but I do understand. My doctor strongly advised against me having children asking me if my husband would be ok raising a child alone. It's hard, definately, but you're doing the right thing. I'm actually going to start babysitting for a friend every once in awhile. It's nice to know we're not alone in this battle...

sweetdeal
02-01-2008, 12:57 PM
Jenny, I'm sorry to hear your news, but I do understand. My doctor strongly advised against me having children asking me if my husband would be ok raising a child alone. It's hard, definately, but you're doing the right thing. I'm actually going to start babysitting for a friend every once in awhile. It's nice to know we're not alone in this battle...

sweetdeal
02-01-2008, 12:57 PM
Jenny, I'm sorry to hear your news, but I do understand. My doctor strongly advised against me having children asking me if my husband would be ok raising a child alone. It's hard, definately, but you're doing the right thing. I'm actually going to start babysitting for a friend every once in awhile. It's nice to know we're not alone in this battle...

sweetdeal
02-01-2008, 12:57 PM
Jenny, I'm sorry to hear your news, but I do understand. My doctor strongly advised against me having children asking me if my husband would be ok raising a child alone. It's hard, definately, but you're doing the right thing. I'm actually going to start babysitting for a friend every once in awhile. It's nice to know we're not alone in this battle...

sweetdeal
02-01-2008, 12:57 PM
Jenny, I'm sorry to hear your news, but I do understand. My doctor strongly advised against me having children asking me if my husband would be ok raising a child alone. It's hard, definately, but you're doing the right thing. I'm actually going to start babysitting for a friend every once in awhile. It's nice to know we're not alone in this battle...

Ratatosk
02-01-2008, 01:13 PM
I'm so sorry about your dog. We lost Gus last summer -- his started as a swollen eye, which ended up being an abscessed tooth caused by a tumor. Was so unexpected and went very quickly.

Ratatosk
02-01-2008, 01:13 PM
I'm so sorry about your dog. We lost Gus last summer -- his started as a swollen eye, which ended up being an abscessed tooth caused by a tumor. Was so unexpected and went very quickly.

Ratatosk
02-01-2008, 01:13 PM
I'm so sorry about your dog. We lost Gus last summer -- his started as a swollen eye, which ended up being an abscessed tooth caused by a tumor. Was so unexpected and went very quickly.

Ratatosk
02-01-2008, 01:13 PM
I'm so sorry about your dog. We lost Gus last summer -- his started as a swollen eye, which ended up being an abscessed tooth caused by a tumor. Was so unexpected and went very quickly.

Ratatosk
02-01-2008, 01:13 PM
I'm so sorry about your dog. We lost Gus last summer -- his started as a swollen eye, which ended up being an abscessed tooth caused by a tumor. Was so unexpected and went very quickly.

AnD
02-01-2008, 01:30 PM
I'm so sorry about Moss <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0"> . But I am glad to hear that you are feeling better both "inside" and "outside" <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

AnD
02-01-2008, 01:30 PM
I'm so sorry about Moss <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0"> . But I am glad to hear that you are feeling better both "inside" and "outside" <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

AnD
02-01-2008, 01:30 PM
I'm so sorry about Moss <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0"> . But I am glad to hear that you are feeling better both "inside" and "outside" <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

AnD
02-01-2008, 01:30 PM
I'm so sorry about Moss <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0"> . But I am glad to hear that you are feeling better both "inside" and "outside" <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

AnD
02-01-2008, 01:30 PM
I'm so sorry about Moss <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0"> . But I am glad to hear that you are feeling better both "inside" and "outside" <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

LouLou
02-01-2008, 01:46 PM
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>sweetdeal</b></i>

My doctor strongly advised against me having children asking me if my husband would be ok raising a child alone. </end quote></div>

Jenny, I'm glad to hear you are in a better place mentally. It was a hard blow to hear I'm sure. Sorry about your dog. It sounds like the babysitting jig couldn't have come at a better time. God works in mysterious ways.

All cfers should think long and hard before bringing a child into their home whether through birth or adoption. This question posed to sweetdeal is something every couple should discuss prior to trying to conceive. Also I believe that the couple should discuss what if the child has cf even if the non-cf spouse has been Ambry tested because more and more mutations are being found. IMO the parent cfer needs his/her spouses 100% support that the cf child will be cared for because the cf parent may not be able to care for the child and her/him self to the level that needs to done. These are two conversations I had with my dh and I'm glad I did.

LouLou
02-01-2008, 01:46 PM
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>sweetdeal</b></i>

My doctor strongly advised against me having children asking me if my husband would be ok raising a child alone. </end quote></div>

Jenny, I'm glad to hear you are in a better place mentally. It was a hard blow to hear I'm sure. Sorry about your dog. It sounds like the babysitting jig couldn't have come at a better time. God works in mysterious ways.

All cfers should think long and hard before bringing a child into their home whether through birth or adoption. This question posed to sweetdeal is something every couple should discuss prior to trying to conceive. Also I believe that the couple should discuss what if the child has cf even if the non-cf spouse has been Ambry tested because more and more mutations are being found. IMO the parent cfer needs his/her spouses 100% support that the cf child will be cared for because the cf parent may not be able to care for the child and her/him self to the level that needs to done. These are two conversations I had with my dh and I'm glad I did.

LouLou
02-01-2008, 01:46 PM
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>sweetdeal</b></i>

My doctor strongly advised against me having children asking me if my husband would be ok raising a child alone. </end quote></div>

Jenny, I'm glad to hear you are in a better place mentally. It was a hard blow to hear I'm sure. Sorry about your dog. It sounds like the babysitting jig couldn't have come at a better time. God works in mysterious ways.

All cfers should think long and hard before bringing a child into their home whether through birth or adoption. This question posed to sweetdeal is something every couple should discuss prior to trying to conceive. Also I believe that the couple should discuss what if the child has cf even if the non-cf spouse has been Ambry tested because more and more mutations are being found. IMO the parent cfer needs his/her spouses 100% support that the cf child will be cared for because the cf parent may not be able to care for the child and her/him self to the level that needs to done. These are two conversations I had with my dh and I'm glad I did.

LouLou
02-01-2008, 01:46 PM
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>sweetdeal</b></i>

My doctor strongly advised against me having children asking me if my husband would be ok raising a child alone. </end quote>

Jenny, I'm glad to hear you are in a better place mentally. It was a hard blow to hear I'm sure. Sorry about your dog. It sounds like the babysitting jig couldn't have come at a better time. God works in mysterious ways.

All cfers should think long and hard before bringing a child into their home whether through birth or adoption. This question posed to sweetdeal is something every couple should discuss prior to trying to conceive. Also I believe that the couple should discuss what if the child has cf even if the non-cf spouse has been Ambry tested because more and more mutations are being found. IMO the parent cfer needs his/her spouses 100% support that the cf child will be cared for because the cf parent may not be able to care for the child and her/him self to the level that needs to done. These are two conversations I had with my dh and I'm glad I did.

LouLou
02-01-2008, 01:46 PM
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>sweetdeal</b></i>

My doctor strongly advised against me having children asking me if my husband would be ok raising a child alone. </end quote>

Jenny, I'm glad to hear you are in a better place mentally. It was a hard blow to hear I'm sure. Sorry about your dog. It sounds like the babysitting jig couldn't have come at a better time. God works in mysterious ways.

All cfers should think long and hard before bringing a child into their home whether through birth or adoption. This question posed to sweetdeal is something every couple should discuss prior to trying to conceive. Also I believe that the couple should discuss what if the child has cf even if the non-cf spouse has been Ambry tested because more and more mutations are being found. IMO the parent cfer needs his/her spouses 100% support that the cf child will be cared for because the cf parent may not be able to care for the child and her/him self to the level that needs to done. These are two conversations I had with my dh and I'm glad I did.

fondreflections
02-01-2008, 02:41 PM
Thank you, Everyone, for your support!

Lauren - As you know, my doctor was ALWAYS for pregnancy assuring me that things would be fine. Pregnancy just NEVER happened after 2 years. We did have the "only parent" discussion, and Jake was somewhat nervous with the idea because he has NO FAMILY here if help was needed. Honestly, the whole idea of a CF child wasn't brought up because he had the genetic testing, like your hubby did. HOWEVER, YOUR SITUATION TOTALLY BLEW MY MIND!!! I FELT SO BAD FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. YOUR SITUATION MADE ME RETHINK MINE...Plus, you now have MRSA like me. I also felt bad about your thread in regards to emolizisms (sp?). You have quite a heavy load...I was thinking about you and your situations when I remarked about "new CF Moms" without directly singling you out. You aren't the only one, though, that I was referring too...YOU HAVE MY SUPPORT!!! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

fondreflections
02-01-2008, 02:41 PM
Thank you, Everyone, for your support!

Lauren - As you know, my doctor was ALWAYS for pregnancy assuring me that things would be fine. Pregnancy just NEVER happened after 2 years. We did have the "only parent" discussion, and Jake was somewhat nervous with the idea because he has NO FAMILY here if help was needed. Honestly, the whole idea of a CF child wasn't brought up because he had the genetic testing, like your hubby did. HOWEVER, YOUR SITUATION TOTALLY BLEW MY MIND!!! I FELT SO BAD FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. YOUR SITUATION MADE ME RETHINK MINE...Plus, you now have MRSA like me. I also felt bad about your thread in regards to emolizisms (sp?). You have quite a heavy load...I was thinking about you and your situations when I remarked about "new CF Moms" without directly singling you out. You aren't the only one, though, that I was referring too...YOU HAVE MY SUPPORT!!! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

fondreflections
02-01-2008, 02:41 PM
Thank you, Everyone, for your support!

Lauren - As you know, my doctor was ALWAYS for pregnancy assuring me that things would be fine. Pregnancy just NEVER happened after 2 years. We did have the "only parent" discussion, and Jake was somewhat nervous with the idea because he has NO FAMILY here if help was needed. Honestly, the whole idea of a CF child wasn't brought up because he had the genetic testing, like your hubby did. HOWEVER, YOUR SITUATION TOTALLY BLEW MY MIND!!! I FELT SO BAD FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. YOUR SITUATION MADE ME RETHINK MINE...Plus, you now have MRSA like me. I also felt bad about your thread in regards to emolizisms (sp?). You have quite a heavy load...I was thinking about you and your situations when I remarked about "new CF Moms" without directly singling you out. You aren't the only one, though, that I was referring too...YOU HAVE MY SUPPORT!!! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

fondreflections
02-01-2008, 02:41 PM
Thank you, Everyone, for your support!

Lauren - As you know, my doctor was ALWAYS for pregnancy assuring me that things would be fine. Pregnancy just NEVER happened after 2 years. We did have the "only parent" discussion, and Jake was somewhat nervous with the idea because he has NO FAMILY here if help was needed. Honestly, the whole idea of a CF child wasn't brought up because he had the genetic testing, like your hubby did. HOWEVER, YOUR SITUATION TOTALLY BLEW MY MIND!!! I FELT SO BAD FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. YOUR SITUATION MADE ME RETHINK MINE...Plus, you now have MRSA like me. I also felt bad about your thread in regards to emolizisms (sp?). You have quite a heavy load...I was thinking about you and your situations when I remarked about "new CF Moms" without directly singling you out. You aren't the only one, though, that I was referring too...YOU HAVE MY SUPPORT!!! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

fondreflections
02-01-2008, 02:41 PM
Thank you, Everyone, for your support!

Lauren - As you know, my doctor was ALWAYS for pregnancy assuring me that things would be fine. Pregnancy just NEVER happened after 2 years. We did have the "only parent" discussion, and Jake was somewhat nervous with the idea because he has NO FAMILY here if help was needed. Honestly, the whole idea of a CF child wasn't brought up because he had the genetic testing, like your hubby did. HOWEVER, YOUR SITUATION TOTALLY BLEW MY MIND!!! I FELT SO BAD FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. YOUR SITUATION MADE ME RETHINK MINE...Plus, you now have MRSA like me. I also felt bad about your thread in regards to emolizisms (sp?). You have quite a heavy load...I was thinking about you and your situations when I remarked about "new CF Moms" without directly singling you out. You aren't the only one, though, that I was referring too...YOU HAVE MY SUPPORT!!! <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

hbollotte
02-01-2008, 02:52 PM
about the dog....i just emailed my friend and told her if i was ever hospitalized i would demand a therapeutic dog be brought in my room. dogs can brighten up your day, not sure what i would do without them. i have two labs, honey and maggie.

motherhood is tough, exspecially when your better half is gone every other seven. i feel for single moms. i just put a vest into the whole mix so i will see next wednesday how things will go with morgan since daddy will be going back to work. i hope in the future she still cooperates and lets her mommy do her treatments without any trouble.

hbollotte
02-01-2008, 02:52 PM
about the dog....i just emailed my friend and told her if i was ever hospitalized i would demand a therapeutic dog be brought in my room. dogs can brighten up your day, not sure what i would do without them. i have two labs, honey and maggie.

motherhood is tough, exspecially when your better half is gone every other seven. i feel for single moms. i just put a vest into the whole mix so i will see next wednesday how things will go with morgan since daddy will be going back to work. i hope in the future she still cooperates and lets her mommy do her treatments without any trouble.

hbollotte
02-01-2008, 02:52 PM
about the dog....i just emailed my friend and told her if i was ever hospitalized i would demand a therapeutic dog be brought in my room. dogs can brighten up your day, not sure what i would do without them. i have two labs, honey and maggie.

motherhood is tough, exspecially when your better half is gone every other seven. i feel for single moms. i just put a vest into the whole mix so i will see next wednesday how things will go with morgan since daddy will be going back to work. i hope in the future she still cooperates and lets her mommy do her treatments without any trouble.

hbollotte
02-01-2008, 02:52 PM
about the dog....i just emailed my friend and told her if i was ever hospitalized i would demand a therapeutic dog be brought in my room. dogs can brighten up your day, not sure what i would do without them. i have two labs, honey and maggie.

motherhood is tough, exspecially when your better half is gone every other seven. i feel for single moms. i just put a vest into the whole mix so i will see next wednesday how things will go with morgan since daddy will be going back to work. i hope in the future she still cooperates and lets her mommy do her treatments without any trouble.

hbollotte
02-01-2008, 02:52 PM
about the dog....i just emailed my friend and told her if i was ever hospitalized i would demand a therapeutic dog be brought in my room. dogs can brighten up your day, not sure what i would do without them. i have two labs, honey and maggie.

motherhood is tough, exspecially when your better half is gone every other seven. i feel for single moms. i just put a vest into the whole mix so i will see next wednesday how things will go with morgan since daddy will be going back to work. i hope in the future she still cooperates and lets her mommy do her treatments without any trouble.

bittyhorse23
02-01-2008, 03:18 PM
Jenny

I am so sorry to hear about your dog <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0"> I can only imagine what that must be like. I dred the day I have to do that with my dog. She is 13 and I know the day is coming closer each year that passes.

Glad to hear you are coming to terms with not having a child. It has taken me a long time to also accept that children will not be in my future (health wise it is not a good idea). I "adopted" all my friends children and also my nephew so that I can feel like a mom. I baby sit occasionally and spoil the cr*p out of them when I can! It's great! And I don't have to worry about what to do when I get sick. They have their real parents. I think it is great you are baby sitting and seeing just how hard it can be. Just think when he starts walking and running around how tired you will be! I watched my friends' 1 year old twins and 3 year old son a few weeks ago for like 3 hours and when she came home I almost cried I was so happy! They wore me out! Trying to keep up with twins that crawl EVERYWHERE and a 3 yr old was almost impossible! I needed another treatment after that whole session!

I am glad things are looking up for you. I have been following you since I joined in July <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

bittyhorse23
02-01-2008, 03:18 PM
Jenny

I am so sorry to hear about your dog <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0"> I can only imagine what that must be like. I dred the day I have to do that with my dog. She is 13 and I know the day is coming closer each year that passes.

Glad to hear you are coming to terms with not having a child. It has taken me a long time to also accept that children will not be in my future (health wise it is not a good idea). I "adopted" all my friends children and also my nephew so that I can feel like a mom. I baby sit occasionally and spoil the cr*p out of them when I can! It's great! And I don't have to worry about what to do when I get sick. They have their real parents. I think it is great you are baby sitting and seeing just how hard it can be. Just think when he starts walking and running around how tired you will be! I watched my friends' 1 year old twins and 3 year old son a few weeks ago for like 3 hours and when she came home I almost cried I was so happy! They wore me out! Trying to keep up with twins that crawl EVERYWHERE and a 3 yr old was almost impossible! I needed another treatment after that whole session!

I am glad things are looking up for you. I have been following you since I joined in July <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

bittyhorse23
02-01-2008, 03:18 PM
Jenny

I am so sorry to hear about your dog <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0"> I can only imagine what that must be like. I dred the day I have to do that with my dog. She is 13 and I know the day is coming closer each year that passes.

Glad to hear you are coming to terms with not having a child. It has taken me a long time to also accept that children will not be in my future (health wise it is not a good idea). I "adopted" all my friends children and also my nephew so that I can feel like a mom. I baby sit occasionally and spoil the cr*p out of them when I can! It's great! And I don't have to worry about what to do when I get sick. They have their real parents. I think it is great you are baby sitting and seeing just how hard it can be. Just think when he starts walking and running around how tired you will be! I watched my friends' 1 year old twins and 3 year old son a few weeks ago for like 3 hours and when she came home I almost cried I was so happy! They wore me out! Trying to keep up with twins that crawl EVERYWHERE and a 3 yr old was almost impossible! I needed another treatment after that whole session!

I am glad things are looking up for you. I have been following you since I joined in July <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

bittyhorse23
02-01-2008, 03:18 PM
Jenny

I am so sorry to hear about your dog <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0"> I can only imagine what that must be like. I dred the day I have to do that with my dog. She is 13 and I know the day is coming closer each year that passes.

Glad to hear you are coming to terms with not having a child. It has taken me a long time to also accept that children will not be in my future (health wise it is not a good idea). I "adopted" all my friends children and also my nephew so that I can feel like a mom. I baby sit occasionally and spoil the cr*p out of them when I can! It's great! And I don't have to worry about what to do when I get sick. They have their real parents. I think it is great you are baby sitting and seeing just how hard it can be. Just think when he starts walking and running around how tired you will be! I watched my friends' 1 year old twins and 3 year old son a few weeks ago for like 3 hours and when she came home I almost cried I was so happy! They wore me out! Trying to keep up with twins that crawl EVERYWHERE and a 3 yr old was almost impossible! I needed another treatment after that whole session!

I am glad things are looking up for you. I have been following you since I joined in July <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

bittyhorse23
02-01-2008, 03:18 PM
Jenny

I am so sorry to hear about your dog <img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0"> I can only imagine what that must be like. I dred the day I have to do that with my dog. She is 13 and I know the day is coming closer each year that passes.

Glad to hear you are coming to terms with not having a child. It has taken me a long time to also accept that children will not be in my future (health wise it is not a good idea). I "adopted" all my friends children and also my nephew so that I can feel like a mom. I baby sit occasionally and spoil the cr*p out of them when I can! It's great! And I don't have to worry about what to do when I get sick. They have their real parents. I think it is great you are baby sitting and seeing just how hard it can be. Just think when he starts walking and running around how tired you will be! I watched my friends' 1 year old twins and 3 year old son a few weeks ago for like 3 hours and when she came home I almost cried I was so happy! They wore me out! Trying to keep up with twins that crawl EVERYWHERE and a 3 yr old was almost impossible! I needed another treatment after that whole session!

I am glad things are looking up for you. I have been following you since I joined in July <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

JORDYSMOM
02-01-2008, 03:23 PM
I'm so sorry about your baby dog. I've been through that more than once in my lifetime, and it really stinks. I hope all of the issues you are facing right now will become less troublesome for you very soon.

Stacey

JORDYSMOM
02-01-2008, 03:23 PM
I'm so sorry about your baby dog. I've been through that more than once in my lifetime, and it really stinks. I hope all of the issues you are facing right now will become less troublesome for you very soon.

Stacey

JORDYSMOM
02-01-2008, 03:23 PM
I'm so sorry about your baby dog. I've been through that more than once in my lifetime, and it really stinks. I hope all of the issues you are facing right now will become less troublesome for you very soon.

Stacey

JORDYSMOM
02-01-2008, 03:23 PM
I'm so sorry about your baby dog. I've been through that more than once in my lifetime, and it really stinks. I hope all of the issues you are facing right now will become less troublesome for you very soon.

Stacey

JORDYSMOM
02-01-2008, 03:23 PM
I'm so sorry about your baby dog. I've been through that more than once in my lifetime, and it really stinks. I hope all of the issues you are facing right now will become less troublesome for you very soon.

Stacey

Diane
02-01-2008, 04:17 PM
I am so sorry to hear about your Moss<img src="i/expressions/dog.gif" border="0"><img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">
I know how badly it hurts to lose such a precious animal. What a beautiful Dog he was! I am sure happier times are in store for you <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Diane
02-01-2008, 04:17 PM
I am so sorry to hear about your Moss<img src="i/expressions/dog.gif" border="0"><img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">
I know how badly it hurts to lose such a precious animal. What a beautiful Dog he was! I am sure happier times are in store for you <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Diane
02-01-2008, 04:17 PM
I am so sorry to hear about your Moss<img src="i/expressions/dog.gif" border="0"><img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">
I know how badly it hurts to lose such a precious animal. What a beautiful Dog he was! I am sure happier times are in store for you <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Diane
02-01-2008, 04:17 PM
I am so sorry to hear about your Moss<img src="i/expressions/dog.gif" border="0"><img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">
I know how badly it hurts to lose such a precious animal. What a beautiful Dog he was! I am sure happier times are in store for you <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Diane
02-01-2008, 04:17 PM
I am so sorry to hear about your Moss<img src="i/expressions/dog.gif" border="0"><img src="i/expressions/brokenheart.gif" border="0">
I know how badly it hurts to lose such a precious animal. What a beautiful Dog he was! I am sure happier times are in store for you <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

tara
02-01-2008, 07:15 PM
Jenny,

Sorry to hear about Moss. He was a cute dog!

I'm happy to hear you're finally able to make peace with your decision about family. I admire those that have (and want) a family of two. You and your husband are lucky to have one another. Take care Jenny.

tara
02-01-2008, 07:15 PM
Jenny,

Sorry to hear about Moss. He was a cute dog!

I'm happy to hear you're finally able to make peace with your decision about family. I admire those that have (and want) a family of two. You and your husband are lucky to have one another. Take care Jenny.

tara
02-01-2008, 07:15 PM
Jenny,

Sorry to hear about Moss. He was a cute dog!

I'm happy to hear you're finally able to make peace with your decision about family. I admire those that have (and want) a family of two. You and your husband are lucky to have one another. Take care Jenny.

tara
02-01-2008, 07:15 PM
Jenny,

Sorry to hear about Moss. He was a cute dog!

I'm happy to hear you're finally able to make peace with your decision about family. I admire those that have (and want) a family of two. You and your husband are lucky to have one another. Take care Jenny.

tara
02-01-2008, 07:15 PM
Jenny,

Sorry to hear about Moss. He was a cute dog!

I'm happy to hear you're finally able to make peace with your decision about family. I admire those that have (and want) a family of two. You and your husband are lucky to have one another. Take care Jenny.

hopesiris
02-01-2008, 09:33 PM
Oh Jenny, I'm so sorry for your loss.

hopesiris
02-01-2008, 09:33 PM
Oh Jenny, I'm so sorry for your loss.

hopesiris
02-01-2008, 09:33 PM
Oh Jenny, I'm so sorry for your loss.

hopesiris
02-01-2008, 09:33 PM
Oh Jenny, I'm so sorry for your loss.

hopesiris
02-01-2008, 09:33 PM
Oh Jenny, I'm so sorry for your loss.

beleache
02-01-2008, 10:27 PM
<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> Sorry about the loss of your sweet dog Moss.. I'm glad that you are working through all of your feelings in such a truthful and open forum with your husband. It sounds like you both have a good thing going <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> joni

beleache
02-01-2008, 10:27 PM
<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> Sorry about the loss of your sweet dog Moss.. I'm glad that you are working through all of your feelings in such a truthful and open forum with your husband. It sounds like you both have a good thing going <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> joni

beleache
02-01-2008, 10:27 PM
<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> Sorry about the loss of your sweet dog Moss.. I'm glad that you are working through all of your feelings in such a truthful and open forum with your husband. It sounds like you both have a good thing going <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> joni

beleache
02-01-2008, 10:27 PM
<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> Sorry about the loss of your sweet dog Moss.. I'm glad that you are working through all of your feelings in such a truthful and open forum with your husband. It sounds like you both have a good thing going <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> joni

beleache
02-01-2008, 10:27 PM
<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> Sorry about the loss of your sweet dog Moss.. I'm glad that you are working through all of your feelings in such a truthful and open forum with your husband. It sounds like you both have a good thing going <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> joni

rubyroselee
02-01-2008, 11:24 PM
Hi Jenny,

It's so great to hear that you're feeling better and not so down about finding out your fertility problems. I think sometimes after the shock and disappointment wears off you realize that maybe things happen for a reason. I'm so happy that you've found peace with it all. I'm sorry to hear about your dog. Losing your buddy like that is never easy.

Take care <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

rubyroselee
02-01-2008, 11:24 PM
Hi Jenny,

It's so great to hear that you're feeling better and not so down about finding out your fertility problems. I think sometimes after the shock and disappointment wears off you realize that maybe things happen for a reason. I'm so happy that you've found peace with it all. I'm sorry to hear about your dog. Losing your buddy like that is never easy.

Take care <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

rubyroselee
02-01-2008, 11:24 PM
Hi Jenny,

It's so great to hear that you're feeling better and not so down about finding out your fertility problems. I think sometimes after the shock and disappointment wears off you realize that maybe things happen for a reason. I'm so happy that you've found peace with it all. I'm sorry to hear about your dog. Losing your buddy like that is never easy.

Take care <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

rubyroselee
02-01-2008, 11:24 PM
Hi Jenny,

It's so great to hear that you're feeling better and not so down about finding out your fertility problems. I think sometimes after the shock and disappointment wears off you realize that maybe things happen for a reason. I'm so happy that you've found peace with it all. I'm sorry to hear about your dog. Losing your buddy like that is never easy.

Take care <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

rubyroselee
02-01-2008, 11:24 PM
Hi Jenny,

It's so great to hear that you're feeling better and not so down about finding out your fertility problems. I think sometimes after the shock and disappointment wears off you realize that maybe things happen for a reason. I'm so happy that you've found peace with it all. I'm sorry to hear about your dog. Losing your buddy like that is never easy.

Take care <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">